How to stop procrastinating when there's nowhere else to go

Hello unknown friend! We are strangers, but I found the time and decided to write you this letter, because I have heard a lot about you. Where, you ask? From there, that I am your brother ... No, now the music from the Indian film will not play, and I will not show you a familiar birthmark. I'm your procrastination brother. And here I will tell you how to stop procrastinating.

I'm a procrastinator champion. Master of sports for fear to start a new business. Author of The Unwritten Detective, which never came out. If I had been born Hercules, all twelve labors would have remained an entry in the diary. I would have found a way to do nothing, because procrastinating is my talent.

I am the virtuoso of apathy, the master of laziness, the genius of wasted time. The motto is inscribed on my coat of arms "Delay until the end!" and I follow him at the call of my ancestors. It would be funny if it weren't so sad. Indeed, in real life, everything is far from being as joyful as it might seem.

How I knew it was time to stop procrastinating

The habit of procrastination has made me literally a loser in life. My comrades of the same age have already found themselves in the profession, got families and their own housing. And only I kept waiting for a miracle - when I would be lucky to become the same respected, solid and financially independent. But instead, I continued to sit in one place, like an idol.

Time passed in vain, and there was simply no strength to rise and take a concrete action. I scrolled through my plans in my head, promised myself that tomorrow I would definitely begin to put them into practice. But tomorrow came, and laziness in half with apathy once again forced to put things on the back burner.

At some point, I suddenly realized that I was experiencing a stupor before any new action. Some kind of discomfort falls on me when I need to start something, and it doesn’t matter what. Whether it's a new project at work, a long overdue renovation, or a marriage proposal. I was just afraid of this new one, freezing in anticipation of the unknown, and again postponing everything for later. On the "later" that never came...

Let's talk about how to stop procrastinating, and if it's possible.

Stop procrastinating until tomorrow - myth or reality

Apathy and laziness got me so much that I simply could not bear it any longer. I was looking for and at some point I came across a free online training "Systemic Vector Psychology" by Yuri Burlan. The ad promised relief from procrastination and the fear of starting a new business. After weighing all the pros and cons, I decided to go to the training.

It turned out that the causes of pathological postponing were buried in deep childhood. Namely, the habit of putting off all things for later is formed in the process of accustoming the child to the potty. It was difficult to listen further, but I firmly decided to go through everything to the end! So...

I learned that procrastination is not only my problem, and most importantly, that it is purely psychological in nature! System-vector psychology classifies people like me as people with.

Such people earn themselves the syndrome of postponed cases in childhood. Slow, diligent and measured in everything by nature, they always bring any action to the end, to the point. Not interrupting at the same time for other things, because inconsistency and haste lead to stress.

Since during the act of defecation, the child cleanses himself, and to the end (for obvious reasons, he cannot do “this business” halfway), he forever acquires the habit of completing any business related to purification. And to consolidate this habit, natural pleasant sensations help him.

Childhood Habit: You Can't Stop Postponing

Such a child is naturally unhurried, so he needs much more time to visit the toilet. If the mother hurries him, tears him off the potty, the child experiences stress and reacts by clamping the "same" place.

Constipation occurs, which can last for several days. The child cannot endure forever and at some point he has to go out of need again. The act of defecation after constipation brings him no longer positive emotions, but great suffering.

If the stress is repeated, then the child’s brain forms the connection “going out of need - it hurts!”. Naturally, any person will put off pain as long as possible. At the same time, the child's psyche adapts this situation, and he relearns to enjoy not the act of purification, but the act of postponing. The worst thing is that here we fall into a double trap: on the one hand, we expect pain and postpone the act of purification as much as possible, on the other, we get used to enjoying the very fact of postponing.

This is how the habit of postponing any business for later is formed. In adult life, a person also experiences discomfort before starting a new business, as if expecting pain. And - the most incredible! - postponing, feels inexplicable relief.

How to stop procrastinating

So, I understood the true reasons for my laziness, inexplicable fear of any action and the habit of leaving everything for later. The fact that at the training in system-vector psychology they told me about my mother helped me to fully understand this problem. She really often hurried me, not allowing me to finish what I started. Although these details were not immediately remembered.

All this helped me understand the causes of the postponement syndrome and brought me closer to my cherished goal - to stop procrastinating and finally start living.

If you are looking for an easy way to stop procrastinating, then this one is without a doubt the most effective.

The way that helped me stop procrastinating

Master the knowledge of system-vector psychology. Only understanding yourself, your psyche can help you stop putting things off until later and get rid of the fear of taking any new action. This method takes some time, but it's worth it. If you are tired of being afraid, tired of your own laziness and really want to understand how to learn not to leave things for tomorrow, this training is for you.

System-vector psychology helped me go back in time, see myself and my parents from the outside. Understand why it is so difficult for me to decide on some kind of action. Why am I afraid to make a choice. How is it that I live an apathetic and dull life, and laziness has become second nature.

Only at the training did I understand what it means to stop postponing life for later. I will say this: if you want to get what you never had, do what you never did. Take some time and attend a free online training in system-vector psychology. .

P.S. Procrastination is just one of the most common reasons for procrastinating. There are other reasons as well. And sometimes it turns out that what we call “procrastination” is not, and the problem is not procrastination. And in what? Learn at the training "System-Vector Psychology".

The article was written based on the materials of the training System-Vector Psychology