How to manipulate a rich man. How to learn to control a man: female tricks and skill of manipulation

Anyone who has ever tried to manipulate a man knows that this is not the easiest occupation. Moreover, both tough argumentation and tears turn out to be equally ineffective - most of the representatives of the stronger sex fall into a rage from these tactics. However, not only from these.

How not to control a man

It doesn't matter what exactly you are going to get from a man - buying a new dress or banning him from visiting the bath on Saturdays with friends - remember a few important points.

1. Don't blackmail him. Blackmail with feelings (“if you love me, then ...”), resources (“I gave birth to a child, it’s up to me”), status (“real men don’t do this”) or their emotions (“if you don’t do it, then I will feel bad”) will not help you control a man, but will only cause him anger and resistance. “Sooner or later, the relationship will be severed, or their quality will suffer greatly. Therefore, try to avoid manipulations that cause a man to feel guilt, anger, depression, hopelessness, fear, shame. They definitely will not bring any benefit and will only lead to a loss of trust, closeness, lies and similar troubles,” explains Tatiana Gavrilyak, psychologist, gestalt therapist at Dr. Isaev’s Clinic.

2. Don't compare him to other men. Shame manipulation humiliates the stronger sex, makes him angry and take this anger out on you. “Never compare your man to others. Never. This is the first step to ensure that he finds himself the woman for whom he will be the best, ”comments the psychologist.

3. Don't throw tantrums. Many ladies consider tears to be perhaps the best way to control a man. It might actually work at first. But only at first. “Then the partner will quickly realize that the woman is manipulating his feelings. And in the future, such behavior will only cause irritation, and you certainly will not achieve what you want, ”adds Tatiana Gavrilyak.

4. Don't try to speak his language. He does not need another man next to him, besides, strong masculine arguments and strong feminine arguments are completely different phenomena. It is very difficult for the fair sex to find the right words to convince him for sure, like a “man of a man”. It's better to be yourself - a fragile woman. It's much more efficient.

5. Do not command a man. Managing a partner with the words “go, buy, throw away” is a dangerous occupation: this will not work on a self-sufficient man, and if the result is, it is clearly not the one you are counting on. Tatyana Gavrilyak is sure that the “bring-give” tactics are obviously losing: “Women are strange creatures. First, they find a man who can be commanded and controlled, and then they are surprised that he cannot make independent decisions, and that the whole family life lies on their fragile shoulders. Somehow you need to decide: either you will see a real mature man nearby, but you definitely won’t be able to frankly steer him, or there will be a “doormat”, but quite obedient.

Manage a man: the main rules

It is logical to assume that no normal man will allow himself to be manipulated if he himself does not want it. Tatyana Gavrilyak advises to take a closer look at your life partner and sensibly assess your capabilities: “There are men who like to be “ruled”, but they are infantile, do not want to grow up and do not take responsibility, so with such a partner, get ready to be a mommy and decide everything problems on your own. It is impossible to manage a mature person without his consent, although there are still some harmless tricks.

Rule #1: talk about your feelings. If everything is not so simple with a strong male argument, then you will surely cope with a purely female expression of feelings. The main thing is to build a monologue according to the principle "description of the situation - expression of feelings - offer - reward or punishment." Suppose he is late at work and does not warn that he will return late. The psychologist advises in this case to say something like this: “Dear, when you come home at two in the morning without warning, I feel anxiety, sadness and irritation. I would like you to warn of your delays, otherwise I will not see the point in waiting for you in the evening and preparing dinner for you.

Rule #2: be feminine and affectionate. “Men in skirts are needed only by sissies. A normal man needs a normal woman - a feminine, soft, kind of affectionate cat, ”says Tatiana Gavrilyak. Therefore, achieving what you want, try to address the man with all love and respect. Recognize that he is strong and irreplaceable for you, focus on his merits, uniqueness. They love it.

Rule #3: watch your voice and gestures. The timbre of the voice, smooth movements - all this is very important if you want to control your man. The shrill and twitchy hysteric has never managed to control a man. And if he succeeded, it was only because he really needed her to calm down and fall behind. “And do not forget that you must speak sincerely, only then will you be heard,” the psychologist adds.

Rule #4: your desire is his decision. The surest way to get what you want from a man is to convince him that this is not your desire at all, but his own decision. And it's best to act quietly. You should not convince him openly, literally forcing him to listen to you: if he firmly believes that he knows everything better than anyone, then your efforts will lead to nothing. Try to push him to the idea that you are right. Let's say you want to vacation in Europe and he insists on Asia. Do not make scandals and tantrums, it is better to search the Internet for information about how dangerous it is now to go on vacation to Asian countries, and as if by chance "slip" these frightening facts to your loved one, not forgetting to demonstrate your own concern. If there is a thinking adult man next to you, then he will definitely listen to the “third party” and will not want to upset you.

Rule #5: thank you. It is very important to show that you are grateful to him for this or that act, that he makes you happy. The likelihood that next time you will again achieve what you want from a man increases significantly. Washed the dishes? Well done, he helped you so much. Gave a long-awaited decoration for your birthday? This is the best present you have ever received. “It is important to learn to feel sincere gratitude for what a man does for you. Often a woman proceeds from the fact that a man allegedly owes her something, but in reality no one owes anything to anyone. Therefore, each of his deeds deserves sincere gratitude,” Tatiana Gavrilyak is sure.

Rule #6: show your weakness. It is much more effective to say: “Darling, please hang up the laundry. You're so tall, and I can't reach the ropes," than to hiss, "Hang up the laundry, and you don't do anything like that." It is important for a man to understand that you need him and are useful, that no one else will do this for you except him. However, the psychologist is sure that one should be careful with the appeal to his strengths: “Yes, this is valuable for a man. But the main thing is not to turn the tactics “you are strong, I am weak” into an absurdity, otherwise your “take my purse, it is so heavy” will be perceived as funny flirtatiousness, and not as sincere praise. But if your washing machine breaks down, and you tell him that with his ability to understand technology, no one can do it better than him - that will be sincere and for real. Praise him only for what he really has.

Manipulation in relationships is a subtle point that requires close attention: a destructive desire to command and control a man is likely to lead to a break. But harmless tricks, on the contrary, will help to achieve balance and harmony in your personal life.

I hope that in itself the need to control men does not raise doubts in you. If a man is not controlled, then you will not be able to live happily ever after with him. Therefore, it is imperative to learn how to manipulate them at least a little.

Conventionally, all methods of manipulating a man can be divided into 3 main groups.

The first group is you just become more valuable to men.

That is, not for a particular man, but for men in general. Your man subconsciously understands that you are valuable to other men and will treat you better.

This is a very broad topic and there is a lot to be done. The most effective is understanding the psychology of men and developing good self-esteem. Then comes good looks. This is the absence of excess weight, sportiness, good and suitable clothes, good gait, pleasant voice, etc. I repeat that work with appearance is no longer as effective as with psychology, but still gives a good effect. It is necessary for a woman to lose 10 kg. and her relationships with men are often getting better. What to say about psychology.

This also includes general education, good manners, lack of rudeness, knowledge of languages, etc. These are much less effective methods. They are not needed by the average woman. But if a girl wants a man with an income of, say, over 10 thousand euros a month, then it is hardly possible to do without it.

The second and most important thing is to increase the value of a woman for a particular man.

If you are just starting to work on yourself, then I recommend that you start from here. Especially if you already have a man. And here again, the most powerful lever is psychology. The main thing here is to learn not to endure the brain of a man, but at the same time not to lose self-respect. If you succeed, then you have achieved a lot. Then if you learn not to show excessive initiative and, on the contrary, learn to support the minimum initiative of men, then you will already be able to do more than 50% of women can.
And don't say you can't stand a man's brain. All girls do it. The question is to do this rarely and on occasion, and not to be a background dissatisfaction with one, then the other, then the third.

The third is actually manipulation.

Many women are pretty good at manipulative technique, even if they don't realize it. And here I repeat that the main thing is not manipulation (although this is also), but who you are. If you are for a man at the time of the manipulation a beloved woman for whom he is ready to easily give his life, then the manipulation is easily carried out or not needed at all.

If you are nobody for a man, if you are not valued in the market of men and women, then the strongest manipulations work poorly, give a temporary effect, etc. Therefore, of course, you need to be able to manipulate, but understand that this is 10% of the potential influence.

Secret No. 1 Some men are uncontrollable in principle or very poorly controlled, and some are well controlled. You need to avoid communication with uncontrollable men.

It would seem obvious advice, but how often it is violated. Imagine that you have adopted a dog for yourself. However, this dog is completely uncontrollable and therefore not amenable to training. Then she will follow her instincts and act as she pleases. She will mark the territory of your apartment with her urine, she will bite you, your children and guests, she will climb on the kitchen table with dirty paws and eat your food, etc.

And at the same time, no punishments, persuasion, training with the help of a professional trainer will affect her, or at least the results compared to the catastrophic costs of time, nerves and money will be completely minimal.

Who wants such a dog? Nobody.

But when it comes to men, for some reason some women are drawn to men who are unmanageable, or it is an extremely difficult task with meager results.

I partly understand why this is happening. After all, many uncontrollable men are bright stars with bright character traits. They are brave to admiration and at the same time they do not play courage, but are really brave (psychopaths). They can rush to fight with three men, without thinking about the consequences. Or driving too risky. Or they do things that are clearly contrary to common sense. At a certain age, many girls like this behavior of men.

They are kind and talented (many alcoholics at the beginning of the disease).

They are charming like children, cheerful and happy (many extremely infantile men).

They sometimes think completely unlike other people (some manifestations of schizophrenia or borderline states).

They know how to charm a girl with beautiful compliments and skillfully give the right gifts (Don Juan are homegrown. I wrote in detail about this category of men in my book “23 mistakes with men. First date mistakes)

However, even in the average forms of manifestation of such features of theirs, these men are completely uncontrollable.

Eh, if the girls understood that such men cannot be influenced and impossible to tame, then they would not waste their time on them. However, I see how some girls fly to such men, like butterflies to fire, in the hope that they will be able to fall in love with them, that they will be able to influence them, etc.

But miracles do not happen in life, at least in this case.

The conclusion from the first point is simple. Do not try to influence those men who cannot be influenced. They will still change, lie from three boxes when necessary and when there is absolutely no need for it, manipulate and show cruelty. Maybe they will drink or behave like an infantile child.

Whatever techniques of influence you learn, no matter how hard you try, everything will be useless.

In the aggregate, there are not so many such men, probably 5 percent. (However, due to the high activity of some of them and the tendency to change partners, it seems that they are almost half of the entire globe.)

Learn to distinguish them, avoid them, and your ability to influence men will immediately increase 10 times. After all, a normal man can be influenced and trained, even if you are not very good at it.

How to distinguish between men who are amenable to influence and not amenable to influence?

I write about this from time to time and will write in the near future.

You can read one of the articles about hard manipulators.

Secret #2. Don't fuss and don't rush. Let the man fuss.

Men are such creatures that have a highly developed sense of smell for haste and fussiness. If you're in a hurry, then you need something. And those who are in need cannot manage.

The rule is this. As soon as you start fussing or in a hurry, you immediately lose 50% of the threads to control a man.

Of course, 50% is an approximate figure. The less haste and fuss, the smaller the figure. And the loss of threads for management leads to uncontrollability, that is, again betrayal, disrespect, lack of help to you, unwillingness to change your habits, etc.

A man is like a dog on a not very strong habit. If you start pulling on the leash, he will definitely twitch and break it. In dealing with him on the part of a woman, you need to be patient and never fuss.

Imagine this analogy in your head, and you will immediately become a much stronger influence on men.

Examples:

- You start to flirt. You see that the man is interested, but sits and does nothing, does not show initiative. And then you approach him or do something else to get his attention and get to know him. You don't have to do that! Keep flirting for some more time, after a while you can stop flirting.

Doesn't fit? And you don't need to. Maybe it will come in a few hours or even days, when you even forget about it. Maybe it never will.

But approaching herself is the same as giving a man a leash from him. Everything, in front of you is a completely uncontrollable man, even if he is naturally shy and modest. He will sit on your neck and you will be forced to pull him on yourself for the rest of your life.

Again, I'm not saying that nothing needs to be done at all. Maybe you're not very good at coquetry? Then you need to see how others do it and practice.

Maybe you are right to flirt, but not in front of those men or not there. Then you need to decide what kind of men you need or understand where they are and, accordingly, visit there more often.

Maybe you need to work with your appearance in order to be more liked by men in general or by certain men. (If, for example, you need to like 18-year-olds, then the skirt is shorter, the neckline is deeper, the manners of youth. If men are over 40, then the skirt is longer, the neckline is smaller, the clothes are more expensive, the well-groomed face, the ability to listen, speak)

Maybe you need to stop wearing headphones in your ears or stop being overly businesslike.

Maybe 10 more options. Eliminate obstacles. However, you do not need to approach the man. About how to please a man.

The man took the phone number and does not call back the same day or the next.

Are you starting to get nervous and fussy? Or even God forbid you decide to call him?

Don't ever do that. As soon as you start the fuss, and the man feels it, that's it, he will sit on your neck. Carrying a heavy man on a delicate female neck is quite difficult.

Therefore, complete peace of mind, even if you are not very calm inside.

It's better to throw away the phone than to call yourself.

- You had a little quarrel, and the man fell silent.

You can't handle the tension with silence, so you walk up to it and start putting up with it.

I don’t know for sure whether it makes sense in your situation to come up first and make peace or wait until a man comes up. (There is no clear advice here.)

However, there are two big differences when you approach simply out of a desire or understanding that you yourself are to blame and from the fact that you simply could not stand the silence, but your partner screwed up on a large scale. A man will immediately feel it. After all, males instinctively feel weakness and strength.

And if you think that you don’t need to approach, but you need to be silent, then if necessary, learn to be silent at least until a well-deserved pension.

Here is a small note. A rather significant difference in the psychology of men and women is that most men (70 percent) calm down during silence (of course, you don’t believe it, but it’s true). A woman, during the silence of a man, can reach white heat. And then, when a man, having calmed down, finally decides to come up and ask for forgiveness, then a “pleasant” surprise often awaits him. (Sometimes, of course, a woman calms down during silence, and a man begins to lose his temper. See specific cases).

Say you belong to 70 percent of women who, after a quarrel during silence, do not calm down, then repeat to yourself: “During silence, my man calms down and I calm down”. Repeat like a mantra. Suddenly, the mantra will help, and you will hit the man with a frying pan not with all your strength, as you wanted, but a little weaker. And if from reading this article 100 women do this, then I will consider that I did not waste time on the article.

- Usually your man gave you outerwear, opened the door, etc., and then at one "perfect" moment he suddenly stopped doing it.

No need to fuss and rush. You don't have to open the door yourself. You don’t even need to scold the man for not having thought to open the door. Just stand rooted to the spot near the door and don't move anywhere. In half an hour, he will definitely figure out what the matter is and open the door. (will give you your fur coat, move a chair in a cafe, etc.)

Of course, this example is designed for men with some degree of upbringing. If a man is proud of the fact that he has never used napkins in his life (and wipes the fat flowing from his lips with his sleeve), is proud of how he spits on the floor with relish and pulls the remnants of food from his teeth with dirty, greasy fingers, then perhaps this example cannot be applied directly.

But I always urge you to be critical of the examples. After all, the rules apply almost always, and a specific example may not fit your situation. People are different and their circumstances are different.

With this example, I end the first part of this article. Always remember that if you constantly have some problems with men, then the reason, of course, is not in men, but in the fact that you don’t know or don’t know how to do something. Or choose the wrong men.

And as soon as you get new information and practice using it, everything will become much easier. Men will love you, respect you, run after you, line up to chat with you, etc.

The ability to properly manage a man is just the skill that will allow you to achieve these goals. Continue reading the article at the link

Sincerely, Rashid Kirranov.

Modern women are often puzzled by the question of whether to manipulate a man or not, adapt to him or be who she is.

If a woman does not want to study male psychology and the best ways to communicate with men, then with a great degree of probability it can be argued that such a woman has problems in relations with the opposite sex, or she is lonely.

Of course, there are exceptions, but in this case, the woman probably adopted the psychological flexibility from her parents.

A more common situation is when a woman refuses her own psychological development, does not want to change in order to please men, does not know the basics of managing men. And it is unlikely that she will find a worthy man - a spouse who can become her support in life.

It is about manipulation, as part of communication, naturally built into the relationship. It is important to understand that a woman without the ability to control men is akin to a person who perceives the world only with her eyes without sound.

A self-respecting woman who wants a full-fledged happy relationship will definitely learn how to correctly manipulate her beloved man.

Psychology of personality management

Any human communication is a conscious or subconscious desire to manipulate other people. After all, when communicating, we expect one or another reaction from others - approval, sympathy, support. Communication devoid of this background will look ridiculous and rude.

For example, if a person, talking about his achievements, frankly asks to be praised, or, complaining about his health and life, honestly admits that he is looking for sympathy for himself.

Conscious manipulation is when one thing is said, but something completely different is meant, where there is an appeal not to reason and logic, but to feelings.

There are several types of manipulation, depending on the feelings to which it appeals:

love- occurs when a feeling of love is opposed to any condition, as an equivalent with which you can pay for someone's service or action;
fear- often based on poor awareness of a person who, under the guise of an imaginary danger, they want to force to perform certain actions;
uncertainty- is built on the shortcomings, due to which the manipulator wants to achieve confirmation of his own viability;
guilt- common in families where its members "collect" the faults of their household in order to obtain the right to fulfill their own desires;

a sense of pride- it is possible where a person has hypertrophied vanity, the desire to overtake someone, to prove that he is the best by any means and methods;
pity- creates psychological vampires, drawing someone else's attention and sympathy, with endless complaints about life.

How to learn to competently influence Him

Every woman sometimes faces her own helplessness to resist male strength, pressure and straightforwardness. At such moments, a woman is overwhelmed with a sense of her own weakness, insignificance, inability to convince her partner.

This pushes women to master the ways of manipulation and their use in relationships. The main thing is to apply it subtly, imperceptibly affecting a man.

Don't hesitate to ask for help

Quite common is the situation when women, despite their "weakness", try to do everything themselves: carry heavy bags, open tight doors, set up a computer, repair household appliances and a car.

But it should be noted that this is a bad habit, which will significantly complicate the relationship with a man and their entire life together.

Some stubborn women, proving their independence, go so far as to buy themselves flowers, theater tickets, pay for a joint visit to a restaurant with a man, and much more.

Of course, it is better to learn to ask for help from a man, and to do this not only when there is a need, but also for the sake of training.

You can ask any man: a work colleague, an old acquaintance, a neighbor in the stairwell, and, of course, your man with whom you are going to build high-quality relationships.

No wonder they say that a woman's strength lies in her weakness. For a man, a woman's request for help is a kind of compliment and recognition of his superiority in a number of issues.

Undoubtedly, this is pleasant for men, therefore, fulfilling a woman's request, they are under the influence of a woman, as if giving an unspoken consent to patronize and support her.

The task of a woman is to unobtrusively and correctly use this. By letting a man know that she needs his help, a woman raises his self-esteem and helps him feel needed, and this is by far an important factor in harmonious relationships.

Use the male appetite

A person is easier to persuade, being in a comfortable and harmonious state.

For a man, comfort is paramountly associated with satisfying the feeling of hunger. In a word, if a woman wants to ask a man for something, she must first feed him.

Here it is important to skillfully apply your culinary skills, an original approach to cooking and decorating food, asking in advance about the taste preferences of a man.

You need to be patient and wait until the man completely satisfies his hunger and relaxes, then you can safely state your desire. A smart man will want to thank you for your concern, and, most likely, will fulfill your request.

Do not skimp on compliments and praise

A man just needs to feel worthy, important, the best, and therefore a woman should help him, achieve recognition and success, skillfully rewarding a man with compliments.

The main thing is to praise your man correctly, because he is more interested in his own superiority in matters of career, intelligence, and financial achievements.

A compliment to a man should always be justified so that his addressee does not think that you are just flattering him. Before you praise, consider how you will justify the truth of your admiration.

Just do not overdo it, find simple words to emphasize his superiority in any matter. By praising your man's timely help, you will push him to be more responsive to your next request.

Create an attractive image

Sexy clothes, timbre of voice, graceful gait sometimes work wonders. Remember, men do not pay attention to the little things, manicure and hairstyle, but your image as a whole: the manner of speaking, moving, the timbre of your voice, stylish clothes will not go unnoticed.

A woman must use the entire arsenal of her external attractiveness and, turning it to her advantage, quietly control a man.

But in the first place should be the bright individuality of the woman herself, consisting of the manner of communicating, smiling, talking and even mysteriously silent. Men respond more to the requests of pretty well-groomed women, and not those whose image is far from perfect.

Penetrate a man's private area

Careful entry into the personal space of a man with whom you do not have an intimate relationship is a powerful lever in his control. Approaching the interlocutor, it is necessary to lower the strength and timbre of the voice.

The effect will be even stronger if the woman lightly touches the man’s arm or chest, and also casually adjusts the item of clothing - a collar or tie.

Soft touches will enchant a man, and he will be ready to fulfill any of your requests.

But do not overdo it with such an impact, everything should be in moderation, otherwise you can cause the opposite repulsive effect.

This also includes the psychological “stroking” of a man: support for his statements, a pat on the shoulder, a wink, the use of his name in a conversation.

Take your time with intimacy

If a woman agrees to have sex with a man she likes on the very first meeting, the chance to build a long-term relationship with him falls by half.

The first meeting is a confrontation, when a man wants to conquer, and a woman seeks to turn an acquaintance into a long-term relationship.

A wise woman refuses intimacy on the first date and makes a man look at your relationship differently, fueling his interest in you as a person.

The best motivation for refusing will be to explain to the woman that she wants to make sure that her and his feelings are true before taking steps towards rapprochement.

Look for common interests

If a woman can find common interests with a man, she will quickly gain his trust. To do this, it is worth preparing for a conversation, based on the hobbies of a man. If you manage to talk with a man on a topic of interest to him, then you can achieve his location.

Another way of confidential communication can be memories of childhood and school years. Having plunged into them, a man relaxes, becomes more accessible and vulnerable.

At these moments, he is influenced, easily controlled and will not refuse a woman to fulfill her small request.

Use your intuition

Men cannot comprehend the essence of women's intuition, so this argument acts magically on them.

If a woman does not really trust her instinct, she can mentally analyze all the pros and cons, and present the final solution to the man as a result of female intuition. This argument alone makes a man doubt all his logical conclusions.

This list of man manipulations can be endless, so let's summarize. It is important that when applying them, a woman does not put pressure on a man and does not intimidate him.

By embodying these principles, you can achieve attentiveness, understanding and compliance from a man, gradually cultivating in him all the qualities necessary for a happy relationship.

Astrology. How to manipulate a man

In addition to the general list of manipulations, there are also individual methods applied to men born under different signs of the zodiac. Astrologers recommend using the following rules for representatives of different signs.

Aries

Aries men are pioneers, their favorite pastime is solving complex problems. If you want to get some result from him, just gently say that this mission is impossible, but at the same time look into his eyes with great trust. And then the man - Aries will move mountains, but will do what you expected from him.

Taurus

Taurus men value family traditions and are very accommodating in fulfilling their duties. It is enough to tell him that this is how it should be, everyone does this, and Taurus, with his characteristic perseverance and methodicalness, will do everything that you ask him with all seriousness.

Twins

Gemini men are too unpredictable and changeable, so there is no unambiguous approach to them, but try to conquer them with your erudition, interest in unforgettable communication and actively use intuition, without it you will not get what you want from the Gemini man.

doggy style

A Cancer man needs to be persuaded for a long time, and, as a rule, he responds to your request, but if he suddenly becomes stubborn, try to pity him. With this guy, thanks to his spiritual kindness, it is easy to cope if you appear before him in the form of a deeply unhappy and sad girl. Believe me, he will not resist your request.

lion

A Leo man needs to be constantly admired publicly, admiration and praise have a huge impact on Leo. And if at the same time you quietly whisper to him that there will be no limit to delight if he fulfills your request, then Leo will prove to you that his abilities are limitless.

Virgin

Virgo men are difficult to manipulate, their mind is very critical, and they want to decide everything on their own. Therefore, reserve for the Virgo-man such indestructible arguments so that it becomes obvious that what you need is beneficial to both.

Scales

Libra men make a decision for a very long time, use this trait of their character, and, without giving him much time to think, persuade him to fulfill your request. The Libra man will fulfill your request also for the sake of maintaining agreement, because he is not prone to conflicts.

scorpio

It is better not to manipulate a Scorpio, he is a very vindictive person, moreover, he himself perfectly manipulates others. The only thing you can do with a Scorpio man is to keep him at a distance. Until he has achieved a reciprocal feeling from you, he is capable of much, just to win you over.

Sagittarius

Men - Sagittarius are the most gullible people, they don’t even need to be manipulated, it’s easier to openly ask him for something. Friendly and generous by nature, he will never refuse you.

And if you tell Sagittarius that by helping you, he thereby helps other people who find themselves in a difficult situation, then Sagittarius will show you the pinnacle of his altruism.

Capricorn

Capricorn men are so stubborn in defending their opinions that they cannot be manipulated. You can somehow influence him, reminding him of nobility and high intentions, of helping those who are weaker, while not forgetting to mention financial benefits.

Aquarius

The Aquarius man is difficult to breed, his intuition is so strong that he sees through your intentions. This is a very freedom-loving type of people, so do not put pressure on them, do not force them to do anything, just hint subtly about your expectations.

If the Aquarius man is convinced that nothing threatens his personal freedom, then he will gladly respond to your request, but be sincere with him.

fish

Pisces men are the owners of cosmic love for the whole world, they are immersed in their fantasies and grandiose plans. Tune in to the wave of your man - Pisces and, looking thoughtfully into the distance, convey your desire to him, and at the right time gently push him to take action.

How to resist a manipulator

All manipulators are united by the desire to subjugate a woman through psychological influence. You should listen to your feelings, if there is a feeling of discomfort, then most likely you have become a victim of manipulation.

To resist manipulation, follow a few tips:

if you are in a relationship with a manipulator - an egoist, fulfilling his requirements, ask yourself why I am doing this, never compromise your own EGO and do not destroy your own freedom;
give yourself time to think about the situation, hold back the impulse to immediately fulfill the manipulator's demand, sometimes this is enough for him to leave you alone;

become the leader of the situation, not the follower, let the manipulator understand that you are on an equal footing with him;
learn to anticipate the course of events, if a man tries to drag you into bed with the help of manipulation, do not be afraid to give him a decisive rebuff;
if you have become a victim of manipulation using SMS, do not rush to fulfill the requests of scammers, but first call the person in question, most often he is not aware of what is happening at all;
during the conversation, cut off the superfluous and concentrate on the main thing, do not hesitate to ask again or ask to explain everything from the very beginning, this can discourage the manipulator;
the desire to look tactful, embarrassment to ask direct questions to the manipulator, can lead to the fact that your chosen one turns out to be a married man.

Summing up, I would like to say that a woman who respects herself, who is aware of her desires and capabilities, is unlikely to become a victim of manipulation. Therefore, it is necessary to develop all these qualities in yourself and not take responsibility for those issues in which there is no competence.

It is important to learn to love yourself and live with love, this will lead you to a strong and happy relationship!

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It is believed that every woman knows how to manipulate a man. But not all representatives of the weaker sex are aware of this and cannot always choose the right way to influence the psychology of a man. When they talk about manipulation, they almost always mean female cunning and its competent application in the right situations. The article will discuss how to manipulate a man, is it always possible to do this and what tactics to take.

Manipulation is a hidden influence on a person in order to induce him to perform some actions you need.

Features of manipulation

The person does not realize that he is being manipulated. If he begins to understand this, then most often he tries to resist.

Manipulation is always aimed at affecting the emotional sphere. Feelings are affected.

With skillful psychological influence, a person himself begins to want to perform the actions expected of him.

Manipulations can be divided into civilized (positive) and uncivilized (negative). In the first case, what a person is encouraged to do is beneficial both for himself (or neutrally) and for the manipulator. In the second case, manipulation is beneficial only to the one who influences, and adversely affects the personality of the partner. Speaking in the article about the psychological management of a man, we will reflect only civilized methods.

In what cases does a woman resort to manipulation?

When earlier she turned to a man with an open request for something, but was refused. Then the only way out for a woman sees a hidden effect on a man.
When he is embarrassed to ask for something or is afraid that a man will not agree to it.
When he wants to make a pleasant impression on his chosen one and seem different from what he really is, that is, to appear before him in a favorable light.
If a woman experiences difficulties in communicating with a partner due to his individual characteristics (for example, irascibility or secrecy), then she can use some “tricks” in the relationship.
For some, manipulation is a way of life, and they resort to such influence all the time without even thinking.

Many men, understanding the natural conditioning of female manipulation, even agree be subject to such influence. For them, it turns out to be more acceptable than open pressure from a woman. Women's cunning for such men is something attractive and mysterious. And many more believe that its presence in the fairer sex serves as a confirmation of the mind.

Weaknesses of the stronger sex

Male psychology is arranged in such a way that it has certain foci of arousal. When exposed to them, it is easier for a woman to control her partner.

Sex.
Femininity. The refinement, fragility of the fair sex automatically makes men want to take care of them, protect and protect them.
Opportunity to raise self-esteem.
The desire to be first.
Emphasizing the merits of a man.
Be generous, financially provide for a woman. This point, of course, does not apply to greedy men.

In any case, before you manipulate, you need to weigh everything and decide whether you can do without it and openly declare what you would like.

What to Avoid When Manipulating

Rigid generalizing statements in the style: “You must”, “You must” or “All normal men do this”, otherwise it will leave a sediment in the man’s soul, he (consciously or not) will resist such pressure.
Attitude towards a man should not be dismissive, arrogant. Otherwise, it looks like using it purely for selfish purposes, sucking energy and money out of a partner. There is no question of any civilized influence here. Manipulation by a man acquires in this case an exclusively negative connotation. It is highly discouraged to resort to such behavior, although, of course, it is up to you to decide.
Obsessions. If you see that the method of influence you are using does not work, then you need to either try some other one, or wait a pause and choose a better time for your request.

Manipulation Rules

To learn how to manage a man, it is important to remember a few points:

No matter how skillfully you influence him and achieve your goals, you must always show attention and respect for a man. If your feelings are sincere, then manipulation will never be too harsh or go too far.

There is always a price to pay for manipulation. For example, constantly maintain an attractive appearance in order to please a man, or remain fragile and defenseless (even against her will), so that he always shows care and attention.

Women who are good at manipulation techniques will never leave a man with the feeling that he has been "turned around his finger." He must feel that the decision to which he was being pushed was made by him of his own free will. Learn to do just that.

The impact is effective only when a man is truly interested in you. Otherwise, it will be quite difficult to convince him of something, and he will absolutely not want to fulfill your intentions.

How to influence the psychology of a man

Before you begin to persuade a man to the desired decisions and actions, you need to give him something: praise, relieve him of some duties for a while, allow him to spend time with friends, etc.

Leave ambiguity. The behavior of a woman should always remain a mystery. It is necessary to take care that in your personality there is always some aspect “unknown” to a man. You need to share facts from your own life with him gradually, you can always keep silent about something.
When influencing a man, take care to look attractive and have a sexy appearance. This is one of the main weapons of a woman. It's no secret that at such moments a man's vigilance is reduced and his brain is seized by desire.
Reduce the distance in communication. Manipulating from a distance is much more difficult. Therefore, penetration into personal space is often used as a method of psychological influence. But from the side of a woman, this should not look like a rude intrusion. Approach slowly and gently. Touch can enhance pleasant emotions in a man and cause a positive attitude towards your words.
Show weakness. With all your appearance, you make the man understand that you need his strong shoulder and you need his help. Women's tears usually lead a man into confusion and even make him feel guilty. This already completely unclassified weapon is used by all representatives of the weaker sex to one degree or another. Usually women cry in order to arouse pity, to attract attention and get their way. The main thing is not to abuse tears, otherwise the man will only experience irritation when he sees sadness in your eyes, and will begin to avoid you.
It is necessary to give him the rights of the head in your pair. This idea is confirmed by the statement: "A man is a head, a woman is a neck." Being a leader (even an imaginary one) is in the blood of the representatives of the stronger sex. Let your chosen one play this role. It is especially important to emphasize the dominant position of a man in the presence of other people in order to amuse his pride and raise self-esteem.
Surround a man with care and affection. Be attentive to him, provide support, be interested in his affairs. A loving and tender woman is the dream of every man. With her, he will always feel comfortable, be able to relax and want to thank. It is also important for a man to see that you are an excellent housewife who masterfully leads the way of life and acts as a true keeper of the hearth. But the main thing here is not to overdo it, not to completely relax your betrothed and not to put him on your neck. Alphonses and lazybones can enjoy a similar position. It is important to recognize in time whether a man belongs to these categories.
Give a man a compliment and emphasize his dignity. In appearance, those characteristics that indicate masculinity should be noted. It is not worth talking about what a man has well-groomed nails or neat eyebrows. This will only confuse him. The phrases are quite suitable: “I don’t know anything more reliable than your strong hands” or “I love it so much when you play with your muscles!” It is also valuable for a man to emphasize his achievements, for example: “At your age, few manage to achieve so much.”
Indulge in delicious food. A woman who cooks well, as a rule, has more success with the stronger sex. With the help of a delicious meal, it is sometimes easy to influence a man.
Catch moments when a man is in a good mood. Then he is more inclined to do something nice for you. To begin with, it is better to strengthen his positive attitude (feed deliciously, invite him somewhere, make a compliment, dress beautifully, etc. - as discussed above), and then pay attention to your “request”.
If a man is guilty of something (for example, he did not fulfill a promise, forgot a significant date, behaved rudely, etc.), you can pay attention to this by showing your resentment. As a sign of reconciliation, ask to fulfill your desire.
Do not provoke a man to experience negative emotions. If you know that some features of your behavior annoy him, try not to demonstrate them in front of him. Don't add fuel to the fire. Create the most favorable conditions for a man to feel comfortable being next to you. Try, for example, for a few days (as far as possible) to be the way he wants to see you. This will pleasantly surprise your chosen one, and, most likely, he will have a desire to do something meaningful for you. And you may like to behave in a new way, and the expected traits will be fixed in behavior.
In some situations, in order to attract attention, you can make your lover jealous of you. Catch the eyes of other men in his presence, tell him about colleagues who like you, start dressing a little more sexy when you go to work or to meet friends. In no case should you get carried away with this, otherwise the task - to cause jealousy - will develop into a sporting interest, and you will simply forget why you started such a game. In addition, the constant presence of jealousy between partners weakens trust and can easily destroy relationships.
In managing a man, using his own words and statements in communication with him can help you. So you will make it clear to your partner that you share his views and thereby amuse his pride.
A woman who has interests in common with a man, understands his hobbies, usually earns his respect and can quickly win him over. If you understand how your partner lives and easily support a conversation on this topic, then you will become for him not only a beloved woman, but also an interesting conversationalist with whom you can exchange views and spend your leisure time doing a joint hobby.
Sometimes it’s useful to disappear from a man’s field of vision for a while, to give him the opportunity to be without you. For example, a business trip or a trip to visit relatives in another city is suitable for these purposes. It is important to keep in touch with a man through phone calls and SMS messages. Perhaps, bored, he will want to make you a pleasant surprise and will be disposed to your requests and beliefs. It is better to practice such methods of influencing a man only when you are sure of the sincerity and seriousness of his feelings for you.

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How to learn to control a man by influencing different channels of information acceptance

We are talking about building interaction with a man depending on what type of people he is. refers to: visual, auditory, kinesthetic or discrete. Each of these types has a dominant channel for receiving information from the outside world.

visuals perceive most of the information coming from outside through vision. They are very attentive to details, they have a high voice, their gaze is directed forward or upward, they like to look into the eyes of the interlocutor, speech is most often clear and fast. Representatives of this type usually have increased gesticulation. A visual man carefully monitors his appearance and demands the same from his chosen one. He "loves with his eyes." When communicating, she uses such expressions as: “Let's see”, “I see that ...”, “He behaves ugly”, “Charming”, etc.

To win the heart of a male visual, first of all, you need to look good, be well-groomed and be able to emphasize your figure with the help of clothes. When communicating, look into his eyes and use the phrases: “Look”, “Look at the situation from the other side”, “You look at 100!” etc. For greater effectiveness of the impact, it is better to present some of the information visually: depict it schematically, show a photograph, pictures, videos. An additional channel is communication via SMS messages and emails.

Audials well perceive incoming information by ear. That is, they focus on speech. For such men, it is important to “discuss”, “talk”. They can be recognized by the phrases: “Do you hear?”, “It's noisy here”, “Tell me”, “Sounds unconvincing”, “I heard you”, etc. Audial men easily remember and reproduce in detail anecdotes, stories, stories, quotes from films. They often make excellent speakers. People of this type have a good ear, and music plays a significant role in their lives.

In order to influence an auditory man, in communicating with him you need to choose soft pleasant intonations, “play” with them, use a sexual tone. Praise your chosen one more often, compliment him, confess your love. During the conversation, you should carefully listen to the man, maintain a dialogue. During an important conversation with him, turn on the music that he likes. When communicating, use statements such as: "I want to tell you ...", "Listen", "Let's discuss", "Your offer sounds tempting", "Glad to hear it."

kinesthetic perceives the world through feelings and sensations. Touch is important to them. Kinesthetics try to surround themselves with convenience and comfort in everything: in clothes, environment. The gaze of representatives of this type is often directed downward, the voice is usually low, the pace of speech is rarely fast. May tend to be overweight. In the process of communication, male kinesthetics prefer to reduce the distance and often accompany the speech by touching the woman. Phrases they use: “I feel”, “I have a feeling that…”, “Heavy temper”, “Keep in touch”, “Keep composure” and others. Kinesthetic men emphasize sex and freedom in bed.

For a kinesthetic man, a woman must create comfortable conditions, use all kinds of touches (hugs, kisses, massage, stroking) when communicating, allow him to relax and rest more. Use statements: “We are very close”, “I love to feel your touch”, “You have warm hands”, “Do you feel good?”, “Do you feel?” Pamper your loved one with delicious food more often. Use pleasant smells: perfumes, aromatic oils and candles, creating a comfortable atmosphere when communicating.

Discrete (digital) perceives information through logical comprehension, deepening into the content. Numbers, signs, functionality are the basic units for situation analysis. People belonging to this type are most often quite closed and rarely the first to make contact. Discrets gesticulate very little, in general they behave with restraint. They are susceptible to criticism and vulnerable. In the speech of discrete men, one can hear the phrases: “It is worth thinking about”, “Logical”, “What is the point?”, “I think that ...”

With a discreet man, you cannot be intrusive, criticize and blame him. Communicate better in a calm tone, carefully and gently. It will be necessary to maintain logical conversations with him, to operate with facts. You will have to correctly argue your position, apply the skills of persuasion. When communicating with discretes, it is better to say the phrases: “Let's analyze”, “I can prove”, “The point is that ...”, “Firstly, ..., secondly, ...”

It is not always easy to immediately determine what type your man is. One must carefully observe his words and actions. Sometimes you have to try different behaviors towards him before you find the most effective way to influence.

As you can see, manipulation and normal behavior are sometimes very similar. The difference is that such an impact is always carried out with the aim of getting something from the person being manipulated, it is usually thought out, has a plan and an expected result. The danger of manipulation is that if a man understands why a woman smiled enigmatically, put on a stunning outfit, or prepared a delicious dinner, then he can further connect these actions with her desire to achieve something from him again. That is, it is likely that a man in this case will cease to consider such behavior of a woman disinterested. She may fall into the trap of her own manipulation. Therefore, it is definitely not worth abusing it.

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Manipulation - concept and psychology

Many have a negative attitude towards manipulation, since this word is associated primarily with imposing something against the will.

But in fact, you can learn to do it masterfully, carefully, knowing what words or actions will be appropriate at the moment.

This is subtle psychological approach manipulations.

Manipulating a man can be represented as a whole science, which has its own rules and patterns.

It is best to start studying it with the main points, trying and practicing them in practice. Over time, you will have own methods and special tactics.

How do women manipulate men?

The way women manipulate their chosen ones, and just men, has already become legendary.

If she wants something from a man, she will definitely achieve it, most often acting by cunning and subterfuge.

Regardless of what exactly a woman wants, she will try all possible options in order to get what she wants.

The main methods include tears, reward, flattery, withdrawal, helplessness. Let's first look at what it takes to manipulate men, and then we'll look at the specific ones.

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How to achieve what you want?

How to learn to manipulate men in order to achieve what you want? So, the first thing you need to understand is exactly how to use manipulation. Based on the following rules for successfully manipulating men:

Ways and psychological methods

How to manipulate a man so that he is up to his ears? Now consider the main psychological methods and methods, the use of which will allow you to manipulate a man:

Praise. Constantly say that he is your best, most successful and generally the best.
There is an opinion that it is better to overpraise him than underpraise him. But at the same time, make sure that the words do not look affected. Everything must be sincere. Therefore, first think: what can you really praise him for? Surely you will find several qualities. And then you will get a taste and see something else.
Helplessness. There is no need to build yourself a strong woman who is “all by herself”. Ask him for help. Deliver products, open a jar, explain some question that is difficult for you to understand. Even if you know you can do great on your own, ask him.
But you need to do this correctly so that the man feels your need for him.
Appearance. The main weapon of women, including in manipulation, remains beauty. Well-groomed, hairstyle, perfume, stylish clothes - all this fascinates a man. He will admire and move mountains for you.
Tenderness. Weasel has a beneficial effect on men. Falling under the influence of female tenderness, men lose their vigilance. Touch him, stroke him, hug him or kiss him. And now, when it has already melted - ask for anything.

Sex. It remains to this day the most effective method of manipulation. So if you learn how to use it correctly, then the man will be completely in your hands. You must have noticed how some girls get what they want through bed. Try to do the same trick with your man. But only it should be positive manipulation. If you say, "There will be no sex until you do such and such." Such tactics will not lead to anything good. Conversely, a man is likely to lose interest in you. It is best to learn the various techniques of sexual caress and use them successfully on men.
Tears. Yes, this is a rather unpleasant way for you. But it is still considered one of the simplest and most effective.
Men are really afraid of women's tears and are ready to do anything to stop this flow.

With the help of tears, you can arouse a desire to help, compassion for yourself, or just feel sorry for yourself. A man will definitely not remain indifferent and will immediately begin to do what you want. But remember that it is very important not to overdo it here. Make sure that crying does not develop into an uncontrollable tantrum. In addition, you can’t cry too often - otherwise your man will simply reveal the manipulation and stop falling for it. So find a certain balance and stick to it.
Food. You've probably heard that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Watch and you will understand that a hungry man immediately becomes angry and dissatisfied.
Therefore, never try to carry out your manipulation, especially if your request is not in his interests. Before you ask for something, feed him hearty and tasty. And it would be best if you concoct one of his favorite dishes. Note that this method alone may not work as a manipulation. However, in combination with other methods, it can tip the tide in your favor.

Try the above methods, combine them with each other and soon you will find the best strategies for manipulating a man.

Manipulative words

How to control a man with words?

A very important point in manipulation is not your action or intention itself, but the words that you pronounce.

After all, everyone has heard about the power of words. And often with just one phrase you can greatly change a person’s opinion, his action or behavior. And in some situations, words even affect life in general!

Therefore, words are far from the last place in manipulation. Every woman can feel their power and use it to control a man.

To do this, it is necessary to bring the partner to emotions, encourage him to take some action, ask clarifying questions, etc.

The following will help you with this. Start gradually introducing them into your speech, and over time they will be firmly fixed in it and will be pronounced by themselves. So here they are:

It is important that all the above phrases sound appropriate and sincere. Only then can they produce the right reflex.

How to apply in practice?

If you are just starting to master the art of manipulation, then at first it can be difficult to understand which ones to choose and whether they even work.

To do this, try to introduce them gradually, for example, start with praise, then add requests for help, and so on. So you will see what works best for your husband.

How do you know if your manipulations are working? Watch the man.

The best effect is when he does not notice your activity, but, nevertheless, begins to do what you wanted, and thinks that he is doing it on his own initiative.

man manipulation not difficult at all and can be learned. To do this, use the recommendations and methods listed in this article.

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